Parashat Beha’alotecha: Trusting Trust

This week’s Torah portion is Beha’alotecha which can be translated as “when you mount” or “when you step up”. In this part of our narrative the Israelites are still wandering through the desert and are again quite dissatisfied with the experience. In fact, within one chapter of our portion they complain not once, but twice! During their wanderings in the desert the Israelites complain so much that it is easy to dismiss their questions and concerns.

Renowned Torah commentators such as Rashi, writing in twelfth century France, have pointed out that this journeying in the wilderness marks a distinct change in habit for the Israelites who just prior had spent two years stationed at the foot of Mount Sinai. Now, exhausted and disorientated, they are quick to raise their voices in frustration at their new situation.

Ramban, writing in thirteenth century Spain, agrees, arguing that the Israelites complaints were indeed justified and that they simply reacted, “like others under duress and compulsion”. Harvey J Fields, a contemporary American Reform rabbi, points out, however, that Ramban did not offer this explanation to excuse the Israelites’ behaviour. Instead Ramban criticises the Israelites’ disloyalty towards God and Moses as well as their petty gripes and exaggerations over both their situation as free people in the desert as well as their time as slaves in Egypt.

I would like to consider the tension this discussion highlights between leaders and the people under their care. What faith (or loyalty) must we have in our leaders if they are to succeed in promoting our own interests and welfare? When is it appropriate to call them out, and if so, what is the appropriate way of doing so? Conversely, what responsibilities do our leaders have to us when it comes to managing the concerns of those under their care? How would we like them to balance the required day-to-day tasks of leadership with their duty to explain to us the thoughts behind these processes?

In short, was Moses so focused on bringing the Israelites through the wilderness that he fell short in managing the day-to-day concerns of the Israelites? And were the Israelites so distrusting of Moses that he could all but fail time and time again in their eyes?

Describing a basic responsibility of people to their leaders, the sixteenth century Italian scholar Ovadia Sforno compares them to a parent and child. He explains that in such a relationship it is to be expected that there will be, “differences of opinions among them” but the only way a parent (or leader) can be successful is if “all his children know that they love them all and has their best interests at heart”. For Sforno, the Israelites failed to give Moses even a basic level of trust, instead choosing to constantly provoke him to see what he would do.

And what of a leader’s responsibilities towards their people? As Jonathan Sacks has explained, “leadership means believing in the people you lead”. When Moses encounters God for the first time he is told to go to the Children of Israel and to declare himself to them as God’s representative. God assures Moses that “they will listen to you” yet just a few verses later Moses cries out in fear saying, “What if they do not believe me?!”. God goes onto demonstrate three signs for Moses that he can perform for the Israelites should they doubt his genuineness. For the second of these signs Moses is instructed to put his hand into his bosom and upon removing his hand finds it to be “encrusted with snowy scales”. Rashi explains that these snowy scales are “tzaraat” – a skin ailment sometimes translated as leprosy. In afflicting Moses in such a way, Rashi suggests that God was hinting to him that he spoke slanderously [of the Israelites] when he said, “What if they do not believe me”. Tzaraat appears later in our Torah portion, when Miriam is stricken with it for speaking slanderously about her brother Moses.

The Edelman Trust Barometer 2018, “reveal a flatline in trust across the institutions of government, business, media and NGOs in the UK”. Likewise, a recent survey by the American-based Pew Research Centre concluded that, “public trust in Government remains near historic lows”. Amongst British Jews, one need only look at social media feeds, blogs and newspapers to see that on this level that we too have difficulty trusting each other’s intentions.

Trust is a vital component of a healthy society. While it makes sense to encounter new ideas with caution we should try not to approach them, or the people saying them, with distrust. We need to create environments, spaces and institutions where trust can flourish, where ideas are frequently questioned but not the intentions of the people who suggest them. We may feel that distrust offers us a certain level of protection from those who wish to harm us but the cost is high; in part a constant sense of paranoia that can impede our ability as leaders and members of society to progress. For trust to be truly effective it must be two-ways; between leaders and the people they represent. Let us work together to build relationships that are built on believing in the good intentions of the diverse people who are part of our society and communities.

This is ‘Spirituality’!

“Spirituality” is perhaps one of the most difficult concepts to define, especially in our post-modern, materialistic obsessed culture. Spirituality is not about “the mystical” as suggested in popular Kabbalah and nor is it about retreat and isolation as some new-age practices proclaim.

At its core, spirituality is about connection. In its many manifestations a spiritual person is one who is connected to their surroundings and also, importantly, to themselves.

True connectedness really relies on a sense of interdependence; the understanding that we are dependent on the people and things that we connect to and in turn, those people and things are dependent on us. The more genuine connections we make to our surroundings the more spiritual we become.

This concept of connectedness is particularly difficult for those of us who have grown up in a contemporary western culture that holds notions of independence and individuality as such praiseworthy values.

Embracing a sense of dependency might sound difficult and even a little counterintuitive but a lot of good can come from the simple realisation that the people around us are much more then social toys to be interacted with when we feel like it. People need to be seen as sources of nourishment that are essential to our survival! Community is actually rooted in dependence on others: a mutual dependence where people and environment rely in some way on the other for survival and vice versa.

Powerful and long lasting relationships happen when one set of unique attributes are joined together with another set of unique attributes, in the hope of fulfilling a shared goal. When we can give to the needs of others and fulfill our own needs from what others have to offer, do we attain a sense of community. This state of mind is the true meaning of spirituality.

So how do we go about achieving a level of spirituality in today’s urbanised and often isolating environment?

Community is about belonging to a group of people who share similar life goals and ambitions. Yes, people can and should differ on the exact details and approach, but ultimately a community works together to build a shared vision. Why not embark on a project with some of your friends? Sit together over a drink and discuss your passions, searching for overlapping interests. The project can be anything you like as long as it grips all of you involved and has an identifiable goal that you can all agree to work towards. Whatever you choose it should be something that you all care deeply about. Next, go round to your friends and talk about the unique skills each of you can contribute to achieve to make the project a success. No single person should have all the attributes needed to successfully complete the project (if one of you does you need to find a more challenging project!) Assign roles to each person based on their unique skills and get to work on your project! This model may sound simplistic but it is very powerful! Here, every member of the group is important and essential if the goal of the project is to be achieved. Each individual has a commitment, not just to the group as a whole, but to each person as an individual. The stronger each person’s belief in the end goal the stronger the sense of community between the group. This is a very powerful connection.

Spirituality is not something one can ultimately experience in isolation. Spirituality is the practice of connecting to our surroundings and is as much a physical experience as it is a state of mind. Perhaps even more so… Conversation and group gatherings may be part of building a community but it is only when we rely on those around us and allow them to rely on us that community is elevated to its true spiritual form.

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